As a Non-USian I find it quite ridiculous that she lived under her own name and filed her tax reports, while the police thought she was missing - and did so for several years.

While she put her famility through hell, we only have the medias view on why. Personally I think it shows quite a lot of willpower to drop your family, move, and get yourself a job somewhere else. If you want revenge - that's a good way to do it! :)

Some complain about the police spending lots of manpower on the case -- I disregard that completely. You've got a fucked up system when the police can't check for indications on whether she is alive or not.

Brandi's sister...I'm sorry you had to go through this for all these years. It was the thought of the hurt inflicted on you and your family that made me so upset in the first place. Granted, I didn't know the whole story, but I am sorry you had to read the things about your sister that have been written here by myself and others.

I believe that you and your family have a lot of support out there. Just ignore the naysayers and go with your heart. I AM glad that your sister is safe, I'm just sad for you all that you had to deal with that pain for so very long. Hopefully your sister will come around and see what she has done...and if not, at least you know that she is safe and sound once again.

My thoughts (and many others, I'm sure) are with you. :)

Outsider - I agree with Tracey - you are continually trying to play the race issue. But since you know everything then you know that this was not the only reason everything happened the way it did. I am not denying that my parents disapproved of her relationship or that maybe they could have handled that situation better. BUT the fact is she wasn't doing well in school and they were wasting a lot money paying for everything and it was not being appreciated. I'm sorry - but if my son goes off the college and I am paying for it and he's not holding up his end of the "deal" - I will do the same thing. So you can leave that "black boyfriend" reason alone cause you know there's more to the story. One more thing Outsider – I’m married to a black man and my parents and I have a great relationship – so next excuse!!!

And the part about taking everything and not letting her get anything from her apartment is not right either, she had plenty of time to get things.

Then, where you said “She was disowned, she did not disown her family” – wrong! I am part of her family and I DID NOT disown her. But by her actions – I was disowned. I stayed in contact with her all the way up until two days before she “disappeared”, so what can you say to that? What did I do to her that she couldn’t contact me? I’ll tell you – NOTHING…..As a matter of fact I wanted her to live with me while she was trying to get back on her feet and go to school here. So you tell me – who disowned whom? Everyone is talking about the parents in this situation but what about the rest of her family that she didn’t have the “argument” with? Why didn’t we deserve to know something?

Then, you say that they didn’t report her missing for weeks. Well, again, it goes to show that you don’t know what you are talking about. I’m the one that reported her missing. My parents didn’t know anything about it until after the fact because I didn’t want to upset them or worry them anymore than they were. And it was about a week and half before I did report her to the police for reasons that I had myself – besides the fact that I didn’t want to think the worst but knew I had to face it eventually. So if I was wrong for waiting, that’s my fault not my parents.

And since you are from Moody – then you know how this has affected this family. And you are wrong and just as selfish as anyone that you didn’t say anything to my mom or any of us. Even if to tell us that she was ok and still didn’t want to talk to us. We could of handled that a lot better than not knowing. And if you are the person I think you are……you are SORRY! SORRY! And how it took years for Brandi’s where about to surface – your identity will also…… And outsider – I’ve already told Brandi everything that I am saying here – so you don’t need to…..

And to those that read this - I do love my sister and I am VERY glad that she is ok.....

From the arguments you presented it seems to me that you are trying to convince the readers that the parents are to blame. It really pissed me off reading your perspective of the incidents and the audacity you have questioning their efforts in looking for her. I witness with my very own eyes while watching the evening news A MOTHER IN PAIN over the disappearance of her daughter and PLEADING to anyone who new her whereabouts to come forth. I find it rather disturbing, since you are so “knowledgeable and well informed”, to see that you obviously knew her whereabouts...what kind of person are you to allow such pain to last for so long in the hearts of those who love her?

It is apparent to me the company Brandi keeps is just as self-absorbed as she was the day she left.

One of the reports I read was that she tried to hide herself even once she went away by not applying for a Tennessee driver's license, and also by having utilities put in her roommates' names. If the police can't search tax records (privacy concerns), how on earth were they supposed to find her?

I keep seeing you try to draw the blame away from Brandi by continuously bringing up the color of her then-boyfriend's skin and her parent's alleged bigotry. Brandi cost her parents tens of thousands of dollars not only in a blown education, but in enormous credit card bills, and an un-used but still paid for apartment. And gosh...they wanted her to go to Baylor instead of A&M...it's not like they were "taking her education away". (Besides...she flunked those classes all by herself. She took her OWN education away.) They had every right to be mad at her and take all her toys away. THEY paid for them.

What an incredible sense of entitlement. It's no wonder that she's mad at the news coverage and now doesn't want to see her parents. This is one of the most self-absorbed people I have had the displeasure to read about. It's a shame that Sam's Club can't fire her for having a lack of human decency.

Everyone deserves respect for their own freedom. Snatching away financial assistance with the aim of strongarming them into doing what you want them to -- even if you're "right" -- can backfire. If you're really helping them out financially out of kindness, that help will be unconditional. But it's not kindness to use your money as a weapon to impose your will on a child.

I don't blame Miss Stahr for her actions. Whether she was "spoiled" is beside the point -- it's not the amount of money involved that matters, it's the drastic way her parents used it to try to manipulate her.

She deserves absolutely no sympathy...especially since she's telling her family not to visit her now that "she's mad about the media coverage".

What a selfish, spoiled little brat. Seven years! Too bad Sam's Club can't fire her for having a lack of human decency! Ugh...and I thought the Wilbanks case made me angry! :(