BLOG FIGHT
Kim Du Toit (who is a man) decries the, um, girlification of the American male by politically correct cultural elites. He is also expletive-deleted sick of a lot of the manifestations of this phenomenon and wishes men would go back to being 1950s-style manly men. Like Don Rumsfeld.
Venomous Kate is a bit, shall we say, skeptical:
If you want to spend your time pursuing such “manly man” pursuits, so be it. But the corollary of your position is that you – and men who share your view – should not ask anything from women beyond typical “girly girl” pursuits: getting our hair and nails done, shopping for clothes (on your dime), casting come-hither glances at the postman but “thinking about England” during your 2-minute performances in the sack, and gossiping about all of that with our girlfriends over leisurely lunches of crustless sandwiches and white wine spritzers while the children are in school, pausing long enough to pay Hazel or Alice or whatever housekeeper/nanny we’ve hired with the money you earn because working – also known as being a provider – is a “man thing.”
Well, actually, most men who lived the lifestyle Kim describes couldn’t afford to have their wives live the lives of the idle rich. Indeed, neither could 99% of the men in society. Few of the women of the 1950s were sitting around sipping Chardonay with FiFi at the yacht club.
Few of the advances women have made over the last 20-30 years (it really has been that short a period that the true cultural acceptance of career women has been a reality) have come at the expense of men. Indeed, men have benefitted from many of the changes. But there is no denying that some of the things that Kim alludes to have been a byproduct. Perhaps the worst part of the change in gender roles, though, has been the ironic fact that, for most men and women, there are now fewer choices rather than more. We’ve created an economy that virtually demands two incomes, making the choice to sacrifice one’s career to raise the kids amazingly difficult for couples earning modest incomes.
Update (1222 11-5):Michele has weighed in as well, here and here
Update (1242 11-5): Alex Knapp is not a manly man.
Update (1331 11-5): Kevin Aylward weighs in, including a priceless P. J. O’Rourke reference.
Update (0925 11-6): Matthew Yglesias has found Kim’s post and sees him as representative of conservatism. [Update 0931: He's less sure of that now.]
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About James Joyner
James, what is WRONG with you, presenting a balanced post like that? Don’t you GET blogging, man?
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Yeah, James, quit being so DECENT already. Damn, man.
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I have only one response to Monsieur Du Toit…. (apart from 95% agreement)
http://www.katewerk.com/images/hunter.jpg
Not all women want a nanny society, either.
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KdT’s post isn’t a satire? I thought it was so dumb it had to be.
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It took me a while to place what Kim’s post reminded me of, but it came to me today.
Ever seen Neil LaBute’s In the Company of Men? If not, go rent it. If so: if Chad ever took up blogging, I think he would sound an awful lot like Kim.
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When I saw your words “1950s-style manly men,” all I could think of was “The Man In The Gray Flannel Suit.”
The “1950s-style manly men” were a sham back in the 1950s. And a lot of men knew it.
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WHAT IS A “REAL” MAN? (UPDATED)
Well, since a lot of the blogosphere has gotten fired up over Kim du Toit’s essay on what it means to be a “real man”, I figured I might as well comment, too, since I wrote a similar rant a…
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I see…
It’s long seemed to me that a kind of poorly-articulated misogyny and homophobia lay at the center of a lot of conservative psychology, but Kim Du Toit articulates it pretty well.UP
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Manly Man Talk
A man named Kim Du Toit is miserable. Why?
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Frequent Outside The Beltway commenter, Katewerk, left a link to her well armed picture in the comments to James’ post on the “affair du tiot”. I imagine there are others floating around, but some quick searches of the usual suspects…
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Blog Chicks Pix – Armed And Dangerous
Frequent Outside The Beltway commenter, Katewerk, left a link to her well armed picture in the comments to James’ post on the “affair du tiot”. I imagine there are others floating around, but some quick searches of the usual suspects…
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Metrosexual = sissy?
A metrosexual is a straight man that acts like a gay man. It basically means that a guy is into sissy crap like facials, tanning and hair care products. Posted by exile at October 30, 2003 11:56 AM This comes…
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