Crusading Against Engagement Rings

Conor Friedersdorf seems to be engaging in a quixotic campaign against the Engagement Ring:

They’re sparkly, sure, but so is cubic zirconium at a fraction of the price. Tradition? Don’t kid yourself: that’s just a myth propagated by De Beers. And besides, no one is asking you to give up engagement or wedding rings, just a stone that is too often mined by impoverished Africans under armed guard or worse.

Why should women want to end diamond engagement rings? Well first of all, it’s your money too, presuming the wedding eventually occurs, and more than that, you’re the ones who are silently judged by status conscious people every time they look at the size of your rock — in other words, either you’ve got reason to feel bad about what other people think of you, or else you’re complicit in a system that makes people with less wealthy fiances feel bad about themselves.

Yea, good luck with this one Conor. You do know the old saying, right ?

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Doug Mataconis held a B.A. in Political Science from Rutgers University and J.D. from George Mason University School of Law. He joined the staff of OTB in May 2010 and contributed a staggering 16,483 posts before his retirement in January 2020. He passed far too young in July 2021.


  1. lunacy says:

    As a woman who has been offered and refused several engagement rings, I salute Connor and agree with all he says here.

    And I proselytize the same doctrine to my peers.

  2. lunacy says:

    One correction. I’m not fond of CZ. Nothing is good. I currently wear a silver band, as does my husband. We like silver. It has special meaning for us. It’s about what we like, not everybody else’s opinion.