Demi Lovato’s Pronouns
The singer now wishes to be referred to as "they."
Via CNN, I see that pop star Demi Lovato has announced they are nonbinary and wish to be addressed as “they.” Given that I only know who she is because my girls are big fans of the Frozen soundtrack and am unlikely to need to address Lovato in casual conversation, given our different social and geographical orbits, I wouldn’t ordinarily comment. But I’m mildly intrigued by the conventions here.
Singer Demi Lovato has revealed they are nonbinary and are changing their pronouns, telling fans they are “proud” to make the change after “a lot of self-reflective work.”
Lovato, who rose to fame as a teenage movie star and has become one of the world’s most popular singers over the past decade, made the announcement to fans in a video and tweets posted online on Wednesday.
“I feel that this best represents the fluidity I feel in my gender expression, and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am and still am discovering,” the singer said.
Lovato added they came to the decision “after a lot of healing and self-reflective work.”
“I’m still learning & coming into myself, & I don’t claim to be an expert or a spokesperson. Sharing this with you now opens another level of vulnerability for me,” Lovato said.”I’m doing this for those out there that haven’t been able to share who they truly are with their loved ones. Please keep living in your truths & know I am sending so much love your way.”
So, I’ve been aware for a while now that “they” has assumed a singular use in some LGBTQ circles. And, while I find it reflexively grating, I’m also aware that these conventions change over time. Indeed, I’ve gotten accustomed to using plural pronouns to refer to singular non-specified individuals to maintain the gender neutrality of sentences, which is less awkward than he/she constructions.
What I don’t get, though, and can’t answer through quick Google searches, is how Lovato can simultaneously be a “they” to others and an “I” to herself. That seems to defy any grammatical logic.